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The Law of Reversed Effect

Posted on February 5, 2023     Leave a Comment

We should all get a little more familiar with what Alan Watts called the ‘backwards law’ or the ‘law of reversed effect’. It is the operating law underlying quicksand, where struggling only takes you further into the dip. It appears when people make themselves very stiff and sturdy only to quickly lose their balance, and […]

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Appreciation

Posted on June 9, 2021     Leave a Comment

We think of appreciation as a quality we already possess and argue to ourselves that the only reason we are not experiencing it is because (unfortunately) we lack the necessary things in life that are worthy of it. Sure, while we may possess, let’s say, the ability to appreciate, abilities themselves can be developed, expanded, […]

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The Importance of Hugging

Posted on April 6, 2021     Leave a Comment

As children we are showered with love and affection. We receive sweet words of encouragement as we learn a new skill, kind glances as we fumble with complicated items; plenty of kisses, and of course, lots of hugs. From the cradling of a new born baby to the long hug goodbye on the first day […]

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On Forgiveness

Posted on February 21, 2021     Leave a Comment

With our prodigious minds, we can recall fond memories throughout our years: birthday parties surrounded by friends and families, the first time we fell in love, the day we received our first A+. But, it is the irrevocable fact of life that one cannot have pleasure without pain. Just as we have fond memories filled […]

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On Mental Blocks & What It Means To Really Listen

Posted on February 16, 2021     Leave a Comment

One of the problems that arise when listening to others, as David Bohm wrote in his exquisite work On Dialogue, is our belief ‘that one already is listening to the other person in a proper way’. It is always the other person who is misguided, isn’t it? It is the dangerously misplaced belief that we […]

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