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Beyond Small Talk

Seen for what it is, small talk is an imprisonment of false bonhomie and an utter failure of communication. But, seen for what it could be, small talk can be an opportunity to step beyond the banal and everyday into the hidden terrain of another’s world. But such an imperative can be intimidating, and can […]

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How Not To Be a Drainer

The drainer is a terrorist, holding someone hostage in conversation. It is an unfortunate reality that when you meet new people, there are few perceptible signs before speaking to them that they are a drainer. Maybe you saw people they were talking to eye off the exit, or observed exasperated shrugs of the shoulders, perhaps […]

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The Melancholy of Parties

The paradox of melancholy lies in how the seeds of sadness sit latent (and ever ready to germinate) within happiness. Just as life implies death and pleasure implies pain, happiness implies sadness. It is the foresight that this momentary (and precarious) lofty feeling will soon (all too soon) descend back to the pits of despair […]

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